For a book written by an adult near-death experiencer that goes deeply into the full spread of aftereffects, I recommend TWENTY-SECONDS: A TRUE ACCOUNT OF SURVIVAL & HOPE by Robert M. Tremblay; published by Balboa Press, a division of Hay House, 2015. This book is raw. It is honest. It covers what comes afterward in ways I have not seen before. Tremblay, who has HIV/AIDS, reveals the truth about medicine, drugs, the Placebo/Nocebo factor, and what it takes to heal. If I could give him an award for this book, I would. It is stunning! There are many other experiencer books out now, but nothing quite like this one. ~PMH

INTEGRATION TIPS

Integrating near-death experiences is no easy thing, for either adults or children. It takes time. There is now more information available to help you. Read as much as you can. Educate yourself. No matter how inspired your “messages,” how right-on your intuition, how incredible the lift into new realities and a vastly improved perception of the truth of things, it still takes time. Be patient with yourself. Remember, most near-death experiences come from violence or trauma. You have a body to rebuild afterwards and a way of living to start anew. This is both wonderful and terrifying.

NDErs commonly have after-death communication (ADC) experiences with their deceased loved ones during the remainder of their life." In fact, some NDErs become so open, sensitive, and receptive to having ADC experiences that a number of them go on to become professional psychics and mediums (or "psychic mediums")

In my own case, I felt as if I was reading my own story after I read Dune by Frank Herbert and The Lord of the Rings by J. R. R. Tolkien. All of the wars, the clashes of cultures, the journeys into the truth of self and the reality behind all realities that both books described, were exactly how I felt after dying and coming back to life. My life, as I found, overwhelmed me. Picking up the pieces was as daunting as the near-death phenomenon itself.


For reasons I cannot explain, I took the “Litany of Fear” in the Dune book and redid it, molded it to fit my own situation. That “redo” saved my life. It gave me the strength and the confidence I needed to rebuild. I would like to share it with you now, with the hope that my version of the Litany will be helpful to you, too.


The Litany of Fear
by P. M. H. Atwater


Fear is the mind killer.

It is the little death.

I will face my fear.

It will pass over me, around me, and through me,

And when it is gone –

I will remain.


It takes seven to ten years for most adult experiencers of near-death states to integrate their experience. Actually, you wind up “unpacking it” and all it can mean, lifelong. But, it takes child experiencers twenty to forty years to integrate theirs. That’s because children do not integrate the phenomenon – they adjust, they compensate, they ignore or tuck it away. Not until adulthood do they begin to question what happened to them in childhood that altered their growing years. Child experiencers remain different from adult experiencers throughout their life. Don’t listen to anyone who claims integration can be quicker, speeded up, or magically balanced by certain rituals, prayers, energy wands, or by the force of some “advanced” being’s personality. It really does take time. Go back and study again the chart about the Four Stages of Integration. The fourth stage is a “gotcha,” because none of us are prepared for it and no other researcher or experiencer talks about it. There is no magic here, rather, a growing joy at the wonder of it all and a peace, a sense of harmony and purpose, that transcends all else.

Blessings, PMH